Do's and Don'ts When Supporting Bereaved Families

 

The death of a baby is unlike any other.

Though we mean well, sometimes our attempts to comfort a loved one in his or her time of loss causes more heartache. Saying nothing at all can be equally as hurtful. The following tips are meant to help your words be truly supportive and to alleviate some of the anxiety around "saying the wrong thing" as you care for your friend or family member who has endured the death of their baby.

HELPFUL LANGUAGE

  • I love you

  • I am so sorry

  • I am at a loss for words

  • I would do anything to take this pain away

  • If you would like to talk about how you are feeling, I’m here to listen.

HURTFUL LANGUAGE

  • At least…

  • Everything happens for a reason

  • Time heals all wounds

  • It’s going to be okay

  • God has a plan

  • You are young, you can have more children

  • At least you can get pregnant

  • Be thankful you have other children

  • Let go, move on

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PLEASE DO NOT

  • Do not offer cliches

  • Do not judge or offer advice

  • Do not compare losses